What to expect when dating a jewish girl
And just as easily, it can spontaneously degenerate when the magic "just isn't there" anymore. Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness. After all, most love stories don't feature a couple enraptured with each other's ethics. God created us to see ourselves as good (hence our need to either rationalize or regret our wrongdoings). Nice looks, an engaging personality, intelligence, and talent (all of which count for something) may attract you, but goodness is what moves you to love. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). I was once at an intimate concert in which the performer, a deeply spiritual person, gazed warmly at his audience and said, "I want you to know, I love you all." I smiled tolerantly and thought, "Sure." Looking back, though, I realize my cynicism was misplaced. Erich Fromm, in his famous treatise "The Art of Loving," noted the sad consequence of this misconception: "There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love." (That was back in 1956 ― chances are he'd be even more pessimistic today.) So what is love ― real, lasting love? What we value most in ourselves, we value most in others.I’m proud to be Asian, and I’m working on learning Cantonese and Vietnamese (at least the basics).Dating Adam doesn’t “upgrade” me in any way – we’re both equals.We once overheard a comment from a stranger saying “where do I get myself a hot Asian girl?” but he was obviously from a very different generation.Likewise, the best way to feel loving is to be loving ― and that means giving.
I felt proud that I was more white-washed than all my other Asian friends. Although we grew up with some very different traditions (my Chinese/Vietnamese heritage and his Canadian/Jewish heritage), we pretty much went through the same circumstances as Canadian children.As a young Asian woman, I am no stranger to feeling fetishized by white males.During the year and a half I was on Tinder, white males of or around my age sent me messages such as “you’re my first Asian”, “Asa Akira”, “you look like an Asian goddess”, and best of all, “don’t Asian girls love white guys?As my boyfriend (who is a white male himself) puts it, “Every white guy wants to have sex with an Asian girl, but not all of them want to date one.” We all know the popular slang term “yellow fever”, which describes a (usually) white male who fetishizes Asian women.On the other hand, there are also plenty of Asian women who fetishize white guys just as much.
Love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person." Every hand went up. Judaism actually idealizes this universal, unconditional love.